Standing sex positions

Well, these are the adventurous versions of some of the positions you have already seen - some of them are just for fun, and some of them are only for the fit and supple. Why try them? Well, you certainly don't need to, if you are happy with the way things are in your love life. But as we said in the introduction, if your love life is flagging through boredom and you're feeling that sex has become a bit monotonous, then trying some new positions can be a way to boost your excitement and passion. I think that lovers who are trying slightly more complicated positions than the standard missionary, rear entry and side by side will be able to play with these positions and find their own favorites - above all, have fun, and enjoy yourselves! Sex should be playful as well as passionate!
If you're going to try standing sex positions then you need to be fit and fairly strong - especially if you're trying to carry your partner while she's mounted on your erect member! If you aren't confident of success, we'd recommend that you don't try these positions - there's no point risking a broken penis!
And that raises an interesting question - why would you even want to try standing sex positions? Well, there were a lot of jokes around in my younger days about "knee tremblers" behind the bike sheds at school: maybe the whole point of standing sex is to be able to do it quickly, when there are no beds or other conveniences, either out of necessity or for the sheer thrill of it! (Airplane toilets at 60,000 feet, maybe? Which prompts me to add a note to premature ejaculators...while quick sex may be desirable in some circumstances, and a fast ejaculation suitable for sexual adventures such as joining the mile high club, it's not conducive to sexual pleasure in all circumstances, so you can always go here if you'd like to stop premature ejaculation and as added bonus for both of you during lovemaking, and discover the art of sexual stamina.
Standing sex is most likely to work when you're both roughly the same height, so if the man is taller, then the best way to get it together is to have the woman stand on something strong enough to support her. Then, the best way for the man to get into his partner is to start with him bending his knees while the couple embrace loosely, facing each other, so that the man can enter his partner as he straightens up. He can thrust fairly strongly if the couple's height's right, and if the woman leans backwards a little bit, then his pelvic bone can press against her clitoris each time he thrusts. To get deeper penetration, the woman should stand one one leg and hook the other one around him. He can hold her thigh to add support, and he can hold her round her butt to help rock her on his erect cock. Take this a stage further if you like by having her completely supported on his hips - or resting her butt on a table if he doesn't have the strength to hold her up. You can see how all this works more clearly in the pictures below.
For even more variety, if you're the woman, stand facing away from your man, and have him enter you from behind as you bend forward. He can get into you deeply, and his hands are free to play with anything else that takes your fancy!


All in all, standing sex is a position you might want to explore, ready for those moments when you want a quickie, you just can't wait, and you just have to have your partner NOW! Apart from the quick satisfaction of an urgent fuck, there isn't a lot of sensuousness or romance in this sex position! But if it's what you need, what you want, and the time and the  place are right, then go for it!

Standing intercourse is associated with the urgency of early sexual attraction and takes on an especially intense eroticism all of its own. We don't recommend resorting to it in the very first instances of having sex. That's because it's not intimate enough to help you bond as a couple, and it needs a high level of cooperation and communication for both man and woman to enjoy it.

This sex position is pretty easy but for those who have never experienced it, here's how you do it. Lean your woman with her back to the wall with her legs slightly apart. Support her at the rear with one hand while helping to insert your penis with the other. If she is short, you may have to lift her slightly. You may also have to bend your legs so that your penis is suitably angled. Don't forget that every time you thrust you crash her into the wall - so do your best to partly cushion her back with a free hand. This is exciting as long as your woman is shorter than you. Because of the height difference, you cannot help thrusting upwards and if you press in close your penis should be able to rub and thrust near or possibly on her clitoris. But the position's strongest advantage is that it reeks of excitement, urgency and lust. It can be a massive turn-on in itself.

The Perfumed Garden offers some extremely useful variations of the upright position, including the powerfully athletic Driving the Peg Home, where the male actually lifts the female off the ground until her vagina is at right angles to his upright penis and her knees grasp his thighs as if she were riding a horse. There is also a See-Saw version where the woman hitches one leg over her partner's thigh, thus offering a wider and more comfortable stimulation, and where the couple are exhorted to take it in turns to thrust, first one, then the other, a kind of alternative in-and-out so that each partner gains a sense of control and a choice of angle.

There may be an association of sex in the standing position with the seedier side of raw, urgent sex, perhaps sex in places where there is a danger of being seen - outdoors in a public place, a stairwell, the store at the office - that kingdom thing - but it is just as suited to sex play at home. It may be easier for the man to penetrate the woman if she raises one leg as shown here. It will certainly be a lot easier if the couple are of a matching height and build, so that his penis is able to enter her vagina easily and allow him to thrust without having to bend his knees too much, which can be extremely tiring. This may be an exciting position, but it does tend to produce less satisfaction at orgasm than others.

The face to face standing position can only be successfully used for sex without adjustments having to be made when the man and woman are more or less the same height.
If the woman is shorter than the man she must stand on something to raise her pubic area to a level with his. Even then, much will depend on the location of her vaginal entrance which needs to be set forward in order for the penis to penetrate to a reasonable depth. This imperfect position is better than nothing, for it does allow very intimate contact to be made and this in itself can be emotionally satisfying, even though the orgasm may not be very intense.
There is a variation of this sexual position called The Tree, where the man stands for sex with his feet apart to steady himself as much as possible, the woman taking her position in front of him, also with feet apart. The penis is put into the vagina, the woman clasps her hands behind her man's back and at the same time he clasps his hands under her bottom.
At a given signal the woman swings her feet off the ground at the same time that the man lifts her bottom, and she grips his hips between her thighs, if possible crossing her feet at the small of his back. Moderately deep penetration occurs. However, the hazards of sex in this position are considerable, and if he happens to drop her while his penis is still inside her, the results can be very damaging indeed, so if you're a man, don't try it unless you are strong enough to hold your partner.

Sitting & Kneeling Sex Positions & Techniques

1 Sitting Sex Positions

If you're starting out in your sex life, one sex position you may not have tried is sitting. It seems to be a position that couples don't use until they're more experienced - or perhaps it's one that helps to relieve the boredom or sense of routine that can creep into a sexual relationship after a while.
Whatever, it's not a very popular or common position. In one survey by Vulva Velvet, it transpired that only 1.2% of couples said this was their favorite sex position, and only 5% used it regularly. 

A restful way to make love

And if you look up "sitting sex positions" on the search engines, there isn't much useful information. Why on earth is that? Perhaps the assumption is that everyone knows how to do it! But....in case you don't, here comes an explanation.
You can either sit facing each other or you can sit facing away from each other, in which case the woman can thrust backwards onto her man's erection like a sophisticated version of rear entry sex!
This is a technique where the man is treated to the sight of her buttocks framing his erection as he watches himself penetrating her. And most men find this way of having sex to be very exciting....

Sitting sex offers several benefits. A firm chair where both partners can get their legs over the sides and their feet onto the floor gives more support than a bed, so there's more stability as you make love.
This technique means the woman has more control over the depth of penetration and the pace of lovemaking. Thus sex can equally well be spontaneous and passionate or slow and loving; in this sitting position, especially if the woman is facing her partner, sex can be gentle, romantic and cuddly, with plenty of kissing, touching and caressing, or it can be fast, exciting and rollicking with passion. 
It's harder to make love in an armchair; the woman will have to squat with her thighs folded if she faces her man, unless he is so slumped that she can sit astride his thighs with her feet on the floor.
An alternative technique here is for her to sit facing away from her man, so that she basically sits in his lap and the couple enjoy a sitting form of rear entry sex.
This can be very exciting and erotic: she can wriggle her hips and pelvis to enhance both her own and her partner's pleasure, either she or he can get to her clitoris, and he can enjoy the feel of her buttocks in his lap.

The third major sitting sex position is for the couple to sit on a bed - the man has his legs over the edge, while his partner sits on his lap facing towards him, her legs clasped behind his waist with her feet resting on the bed.
This way of making love has ample scope for the couple to caress, kiss and explore each other's bodies as passionately as if they were in the early stages of their love affair.

---

MEN! Read This If You Have Broken Up With Your Partner!
(And you want her back...) The end of a relationship can be one of the most painful of all life events, and few of us escape the difficulty of separation and break up during our lives. But what can make a sad situation worse is when you realize it has all been a mistake.
Wanting your ex-partner back, and not knowing how to go about getting them back can be one of the most difficult and challenging aspects of any relationship. But fortunately there is a way - by taking the advice of a relationship guru who can help you with the psychology of getting your ex back.
Believe it or not, texting can play a major role in renewing a relationship - because it allows objective, innocent communication without the emotional issues associated with face to face talk. Find out how texting can work for you if your relationship has broken down by reading Mike Fiore's program text your ex back and get your ex back. Take control of your relationship right now and find out how to get what you want with this effective program of relationship renewal!

---

Most difficult of all is the variation where the man and the woman both sit on the bed, clasping each other with their legs around the waist. This requires a fair degree of flexibility and may not be possible for all couples. Indeed, even those who can manage it may wish to have some kind of back support.
Obviously the woman will be sitting in the man's lap. One of the advantages of this technique is that you can adopt an almost meditative pose and extend sexual intercourse for as long as you wish - small pelvic movements will keep him erect, and her aroused - while you center your sexual energy centers and visualize the flow of energy around your bodies.
The higher the woman holds her knees, effectively the shorter her vagina will become.

Face-to-face seated sex position

Here the man sits on an ordinary chair and the woman sits astride him. This position allows reasonably deep penetration, but there are other advantages which no other position permits.
If the woman, having placed her hands on her man's shoulders, leans very slightly back, he is able to caress her breasts with his mouth; all her most erotically sensitive areas, particularly on her back, are within reach of his hands; while her clitoris is easily accessible to the stimulation of his fingers.
Large couples will find this sexual technique most helpful in obtaining deep penetration.
In general, sitting positions may not give as much sensation as some of the more traditional man on top or woman on top positions, but the naughty thrill of sitting sex may make up for this.
If you happen to be kissing and cuddling in a chair, it's not hard to make the transition into full-blown sex, partly or fully clothed, with a few adjustments to your position.
Once again, the partner on top - generally the woman - is the one who has the most opportunity to move and control the pace of sex; though in some cases the man will be able to move and can help his partner to move by lifting her with his hands under her buttocks - which they are both likely to find rather erotic.

One of the nicest things about face to face sex is the closeness and extensive body contact that you can enjoy; in fact, this is what helps to give sitting sex a strong feeling of intimacy and connection.
Of course, it's arguable that many of the positions we have described on other pages fall into the category of sitting sex: for example, does "sitting sex" include a position where the woman is sitting on top of her man as he lies on the bed?
We believe it doesn't matter. There are no hard and fast rules about sex - and indeed different categories may serve no useful purpose other than to satisfy our wish to classify things. 

2 Kneeling Sex Positions & Techniques

There aren't any rules about how to enjoy yourselves during sex: indeed, there's a lot to be said for a simple philosophy of "if it feels good, do it".
With that in mind, here are some suggestions, in the guise of photos, about how you might enjoy the more adventurous forms of sexual intercourse, among which I'd include kneeling sex positions.

  

 

One of the possible advantages of the photos shown here is that the man can manipulate his position in relation to his partner so that she enjoys the maximum G spot stimulation. This can add greatly to her pleasure. I'd guess that you have to be fairly uninhibited to enjoy these positions, since they expose you completely to your partner's gaze, and they involve a fair amount of romping around in pretty unconventional sex positions.

Finally, I came across the so-called Kneeling Ball Sex Position in the outer reaches of the internet, and I thought I'd describe it here for you.In this the position the woman lies on her side as though she was going to curl up into a ball. The man is kneeling, facing the woman's back. He penetrates her from behind, while he's kneeling and she's sort-of curled up into a ball.
He can thrust from his hips, though the woman can move somewhat as well. If you're into power play, this is a good technique since one partner is naturally subordinate and one is naturally dominant and in control.
The man can change the angle and direction of penetration so he stimulates his partner's clitoris and G spot. The partner lying down can move their legs in and out of the ball (i.e. straighten them) to change the sensations for the penetrating partner.
The penetrating partner can give a lot of loving attention to the partner laying on the bed.

Edge Of The Bed Sex Positions

---

There are many possibilities for excitement and variation using the edge of the bed. If you want to feel adventurous, but you don't feel like sex on the kitchen table, just adapt the way you use your bed. This is a very simple and straightforward way to get more excitement with different angles of penetration, which you can enhance with the use of a pillow or two.
Both of you will find the your hands have more freedom of movement, and if you are different heights, you'll find this makes trying new variations of the way you enjoy intercourse much easier than having sex standing up or similar variations.
So let's start with photo 1. Call it what you like (it's been called the T-bar by those great sex experts Em and Lo in their massive sex manual "How To Do Everything"). You can see how it works in the picture - she lies on her back with her legs hanging over the edge of the bed while he's standing by the side of the bed, entering her possibly with the help of pillows under her bottom, or by something solid to give him a bit of extra height if necessary.
If the bed is really low, he can kneel (with pillows on the floor to protect his knees). The great thing about all of these positions, especially when her legs hang over the edge of the bed, is that he gets great leverage when he leans forward; if he puts his hands on the bed as well, he gets greater power and freedom to thrust, and he gets a wonderful psychological boost of power and dominance as well!
Furthermore, all of these "edge of the bed" sexual positions are perfect for clitoral massage.
Another exciting variation in this position is for him to lift her up and for her to wrap her legs around his waist, although this does need a certain amount of strength, add you might need some pillows under her back if you're keeping it up for a length of time.
As for photo 1a, well, here's a thought: although it's a great position for making love, you can improve on it. Have the woman lie on a table instead! Then, because the man's feet are firmly planted on the floor he can stand up straight, though he may have to have his legs wide apart or his knees bent to allow his penis to enter the vagina. This standing straight allows the man to 'swing' his pubic area much more freely when he makes thrusting movements, and additional stimulation is given to both by the scrotum brushing against her crotch as the man goes forward and withdraws.
You can see the natural progression of the T-bar position in a photograph 2. This time the guy's kneeling, although once again this is just a matter of adjusting the height of the two partners so that he can enter her easily (i.e. kneeling is not compulsory!). Oh yes - and she's turned over so that he gets the pleasure of the sight of her bum, and they both get the stimulating feeling of rear entry sex as he thrusts onto her G spot. She may well love the stimulating feeling of rear entry sex on her G spot. This powerful and sexy position is probably one of the best for the edge of the bed.
You can see the next logical variation in photo 3: she's kneeling up and he's standing as he enters her: this is a perfect sex position for a man, who will love the sight of his cock entering his partner - plus, the sight of her buttocks parted as he thrusts between them is very powerful sexual stimulant.
And rear entry gives her the opportunity to act out the wanton wildness that displays her powerful, lusty sexuality. You can see yet another variation of the possibilities of this position in photograph 4, where the man is able to pleasure her with cunnilingus comfortably and easily. That's great because cunnilingus isn't always something the easiest or most comfortable sexual pastime, but this oral sex position renders cunnilingus into a delight for both partners. And though she might need something under her feet to support them and prevent any strain on her legs, and he might need something under his knees to protect them so that he doesn't get sore knees, all in all it's a wonderful sexual position.
Photo 5 show something that's been called The Right Angle by Em and Lo. She places a foot on each of his shoulders, and he enters her as he leans forward - this means he can push deep into her. This sexual position tends to work best when the pelvises of the two people involved are aligned, so the man may need to stand in a comfortable position, perhaps using something to stand on for extra height, and it's best for her when her back is flat on the bed all the way from bum to head. Again, a very exciting position, and it gives people a lot of excitement because of both its novelty and the new sensations it offers.
Although there is no photo of it, you can develop this position five by having him part her legs and hold them wide apart in a V shape as he thrusts deep into her - it's powerful and sexy.
Photograph 6 shows a variation on the T-bar with added lift: he's kneeling on the bed instead of standing on the floor, but it comes to the same thing. This time she has also the possible excitement of dangling her head backwards over the edge of the bed, which some women find hugely exciting - it gives an extra rush of blood at the moment of orgasm. In fact, this is the position in which sometimes women will momentarily pass out with the sheer excitement of their orgasm.
You can see this taken even further in photo 7: if you think this might rock your boat, it's a position worth trying!
Photo 8 shows an easy position in which to enjoy rear entry sex: she's bending over the edge of the bed, with her legs spread and feet firmly on the ground. She can lean forward as far as she likes; if this lowers her pelvis, he can simply widen his stance so that he can still enter her comfortably. This is one of the most comfortable positions of all for rear entry.
Using the edge of the bed in the way shown in photo 9 is just an interesting variation on a theme - it's great for experimentation, but possibly not so comfortable for him. As always, these things can provide new sensations due to the different angle of penetration.
Photos 10 and 10a show some interesting sitting sex positions -- once again fun for a variation on routine sex, but probably not something you'd want to do every day. Remember, though, that the more variation you have in your sex life, the more satisfied you'll be!
1   1a
2
3 4
 4a
5 6 7
8 9
10  10a   
11
The coital alignment technique is a sexual position designed to give a woman a clitoral orgasm during intercourse. It avoids the thrusting of the man into the woman, which more often than not produces rapid climax - at least for him: instead, the CAT is a gentle approach to sex, with small subtle movements and full body contact. The focus is on the clitoris and it's designed to get her to orgasm without stimulation of her clitoris with fingers or hand.
You start sex off in the basic missionary position with her lying on her back and her legs just outside his. His upper body is raised on his hands so that his upper chest is some distance above hers. His pelvis may be a little bit lower than hers, that is to say a bit further down her body, between her legs. Although this is a good position for typical man on top sex, once you've penetrated her you are not going to thrust as is usual in this position: instead you're going to adapt into the CAT.
Step two
This is the crucial alignment. He places his arms under her armpits and cups her shoulders in his hands (palm upwards) - this means he's taking his weight on his forearms, but he's still maintaining as much body contact as possible with his partner. As he keeps his penis inside her, he pulls his body upwards on hers, towards her head. Their pelvises should be directly aligned, with his on top of hers.
She now moves her legs straight out and rests her ankles on his calves. Both partners' legs should be as straight as possible - if it's more comfortable for her she can lay hers alongside his on the bed. In this position his head is beside her head, and although he's still inside her, the movement of his upper body means that probably not much of his penile shaft is still inside her vaginal canal.
Instead it will be pressing up against the top half of her external genitals. His upper body should be relaxed.
Step three
As he is pushing his body up along her body, she tips her pelvis away from him; that is to say, down into the bed, which means that his penis will almost completely emerge from her vagina - she will feel its base pressing against her clitoris.
This is a small and subtle movement - and it needs to be this way to ensure that the whole of his shaft does not fall out of her vagina.
Step four
The final step is that he pushes down with his pelvis so his whole body moves lower down her body, and his penis enters her vagina more fully. It's only a small movement, induced by the tilting of his pelvis, and she needs to match it she tilts her hips upwards to counterpoint the movement she made in step three.
The man is still lying on top of his partner and their legs are still in the same position, as straight as it's possible to get them, with her legs wrapped around his at the ankles. She is aiming to keep her thighs and knees rather close together.
The difference between his pelvis position in steps three and four is a mere 4 inches or so - in step three it is directly above hers, and in this step it's about 4.5 inches lower than her body.
This means his pelvis is closer to the bed and tipped at an angle between her legs. Now all that happens is that both partners keep going at this hip rocking movement,  alternating between the previous step and this one.
In other words, as he moves up she moves down, and as he moves down, she tilts up. It's a slow and rhythmic movement, because the goal is to maintain a constant pressure rubbing against the area from her pubic bone down to her vaginal opening.
This is done with his penile shaft, his pubic bone,  and the weight of his body. It can work wonderfully well if you get it right.

Sexual positions - side by side sex techniques

 

Side by side sexual positions are the best way to make romantic love. But they are not the easiest to get into, unless you use the right technique....so start from the more common missionary position and then roll onto your sides, having agreed which way you'll roll before you go! The woman needs to hitch her leg up as you can see in the first picture above.

That photo shows our models in a very intimate sexual position which lets the man and woman gaze into each other's eyes, embrace and kiss, or enjoy the sensations of intimacy and closeness. Since they are facing each other, the man can kiss or caress the woman's breasts and both partners are able to touch each other's chest, body and face. This can be a very enjoyable adjunct to lovemaking. We have a great new site to offer you - where you can learn to control premature ejaculation with the PE program Ejaculation By Command by Lloyd Lester - reviewed here! It will give you the power to control your ejaculation during sex immediately.

Certainly, side by side sexual positions give a couple a true sense of intimacy. But there are some very tangible advantages too: a man who usually experiences premature ejaculation may discover how to last longer in bed in this position, partly because his movement is restricted, and partly because his penis does not receive the same pressure from the wall of his partner's vagina. Even so, he can get deep penetration, and he is unlikely to "fall out" of his partner because of the close linking and connection of their bodies. This means side by side is also a good sex position for a man with a small penis.

With gentle thrusting, and regular rests, combined with some clitoral play, it's quite possible for even the most premature ejaculator to achieve a long session of intercourse with the woman and man orgasming simultaneously. Indeed, if you want to discover how to stop premature ejaculation rapidly, just check out side by side sex positions next time you make love.

The rear entry orientation shown in the second photo is a form of side by side sex often called spooning. It's intimate and allows a lot of bodily contact, but it also allows a couple to fall asleep comfortably after sex with the man wrapped around his partner. But apart from those advantages, it can be very arousing for the man, with the obvious similarity to rear entry sex. As always, the best way to discover if it turns you on is to try it out and see what happens!

There are plenty of variations on the theme of side by side sexual positions. The third photo shows how you can move into any number of different angles and so produce endless variations which may give you more or less of a thrill, depending on the angle at which the erect penis enters the vagina.

As I mentioned before, side by side sex puts less pressure on the penis and slows down your approach to orgasm - which is very useful for men with premature ejaculation.

Flanquette & Cuissade

Positions in which entry is made from a half-rear and half-sideways angle are described by the French as cuissade. For instance, if a woman is lying on her back and the man is turned sideways to her, and she then bends the leg nearest to him and hooks it over his thigh to enable him to enter her, this is a cuissade position. Another is when the woman turns her back to the man and draws up one of her legs and he enters her with her other leg between his. Or she may be half-turned from him. In the cuissade sexual positions the man can enter the woman from a variety of angles, and penetration can be deep. It is particularly deep if the man, after entering the woman, leans back so that his body is at right angles to hers.
The so-called flanquette positions are those in which entry is made from a half-sideways and half-facing position. As in the cuissade positions, one of the man's legs is between the woman's legs and one of hers is raised. The advantages of the flanquette sexual positions are the freedom to vary the angle of entry and also the ability to obtain deep penetration. The man is able to make slow and deep thrusting movements and the genital contact can be complemented with mouth and breast kisses.

A woman's opinion of side by side sexual positions (and some hints to women trying it for the first time)

One of my favorite things to do during intercourse is going through one sexual position after another. Don't misunderstand me: I like man-on-top sex because I can so clearly feel his body on top of me, and I get that special frisson that comes from feeling dominated by a man who loves me and can safely "take" me.
What's more, man on top sex positions are great for the first joining of our bodies during lovemaking, because we kiss and gaze at each other, and my hands are free to caress his ass and balls, and feel his cock as it slides in and out of me. I can make sex feel very different in this position just by moving my legs slightly: some favorite variations include gripping my man tightly around his waist (which really excites him!), putting my legs straight out, or bending them at the knees (which gives deeper penetration), or adding pressure to his penis and balls by moving my legs closer together.
However, I do like to change position during sex. After a while we roll on our sides - either way - and then things begin to hot up! It's more even, in the sense that I can caress him and he can caress me, and I can reach to find his balls and the base of his cock more easily. Side by side sex positions are often suggested as a great way to make love for couples and pregnant women, but sex in this position is worth a try for absolutely anyone!
And it's really simple after you learn how to do it: the key is having the woman raise her legs, with her knees bent, until her thighs are at the height of her man's waist - but you must do this before you turn onto your sides! Now have the man enter you deeply and keep his penis deep inside you. Hold your partner firmly - decide which way you're going to turn - and over you go!  The woman's thigh underneath the man's body should be quite comfortable if you've done this correctly. If it's feeling squashed, lift it higher until it feels OK.
You'll be surprised how much variation there can be in side by side sex. If you lean back, apart from each other, and especially if you lift your upper leg up in the air, you get a great view of your man's erect cock pushing into your pussy. And this might just excite your man so much he comes quickly! Another benefit: you and your partner can take turns to reach down and feel your clitoris.
You'll find this sex position allows for a sense of deep, almost spiritual connection during excellent sex. Being able to take a pause to look lovingly into each others' eyes, chat and touch each other lovingly makes a big difference, and you can even send each other beautiful energy between your heart chakras or base (sex) chakras.
Finally, I think it's a great position for pre-sleep lovemaking when neither of you feels very energetic. Even very small thrusts by your man can be deliciously sensitive. No wonder this sex position is one of our favorites!
A man's opinion and tips for good sex in the side by side position
It was only after several years' great sex (mostly of the man on top variety) that we discovered side by side sex positions. We had great sex - why explore anything else? But you know how it is - boredom creeps in eventually, and so we decided to experiment; from the missionary position we rolled over and had a truly wonderful experience of lovemaking. This isn't to say that I think side by side sex is better than man on top sex; it's not, it's just different. And it proved to me that experimenting with sex in as many ways as possible keeps the relationship fresh.
There's an intimacy you may not feel in other sex positions - with lots of skin contact, eye-gazing, seeing her react as she feels you push into her, and the always-amazing warmth and wetness as you thrust deeply!
Better still, my partner can thrust if she wants to do so, more easily than in some other sexual positions.
Since she's in a fairly relaxed position in side by side sex she can play with her man's body - even his nipples, which some men find highly arousing - and she can really feel my penis in her pussy as I thrust, even though it doesn't make me come so quickly. I actually think that's because my cock moves into her vagina more loosely and this allows me to go on for longer with harder thrusting than in the man on top position.
In addition, talking to each other seems to help us feel more intimate as we make love and give each other feedback on what we're doing....and feeling! This can be very bonding, and always makes us feel very loving.
Finally, if she wraps her legs around my buttocks and pulls me in towards her, especially if she thrusts her hips during lovemaking, the result can be a pretty powerful orgasm for both of us!

Woman on top sexual positions

If you're a man, you'll have spent a fair amount of time thinking about this! Ah yes - it's the stuff of fantasy!

To have her on top, giving you pleasure, watching her body as she moves up and down your penis, slowly teasing you, watching you seductively as she moves, controlling her movements and savoring her power as she keeps you in the relentless grip of her vagina.

Yes, it's a good sexual position for fantasy, for sure - but does it live up to its billing?

Well, probably. As always, the best sexual position for you and your partner is a matter of individual preference, but it's fair to say that making love with the woman on top is very popular with both men and women - and for some very good reasons.

Men find this sexual technique exciting because it's less often used by couples than the man on top position - and so it produces a different set of sensations as you make love.

And it's restful, so no matter how much you as a man like thrusting, it gives you a more relaxing experience. The techniques a woman can employ as she skillfully rides you can tease you and keep you on the edge of orgasm until the sexual tension seems almost unbearable, and all the while you have the chance to see her breasts or buttocks, depending whether she is facing towards or away from you.

And for a woman, the position has some great advantages. She can control the pace and rhythm of sex; she can get a sense of her sexual power; she can see the pleasure she gives her man; and she can take the dominant role during sex.

You'll see a lot of material written about how these woman on top techniques can make a woman orgasm - but that's only true if her man doesn't suffer from premature ejaculation! If a man has ejaculation control techniques developed to a fine art, his partner can certainly ride him in the way that best stimulates her clitoris and G spot.

Since woman on top sexual techniques allow you both to get away from the idea that sex is something in which a man has to be dominant, it can be good for the relationship, bringing a greater sense of equality and enabling men who are secure about their own masculinity to relax and stop feeling they have to be "in charge" during sex.

Woman on top sexual positions - how to enjoy them

This isn't complicated! If you're a man lying on your back with an erection, and your female partner is straddling you, then the basic variation is whether she faces towards your face or your feet as she inserts your penis into her vagina. Many men find their penis is bent uncomfortably if their partner is facing towards their feet - in fact, it may not even be possible for you to insert your penis into her if it points straight up towards your chest when it's erect. But as always - think of the fun you can have trying out this sex position!

More after this commercial break! A place where you can read about human sexuality, masculinity and femininity.

As you can see in the pictures above (which, by the way, all expand if you click on them), a woman has plenty of opportunity to take a dominant role during woman on top sex. And since her body is not constrained by her partner's, as it may be during man on top sex, she has the freedom to move into the position that best suits her and gives her the greatest pleasure.

Variations on the woman on top sexual position

The woman lies on top

Woman on top sexual positions can give you a whole variety of sensations, depending on the angle at which the woman lies on top of the man. What's best for you and your partner will be something you only discover when you try this position, since the angle and shape of each couple's vagina and penis are slightly different. But a good starting point is to have the female partner lie on top of the male partner with her chest close to his.

The physical feelings here can be very strong. Their intensity will depend chiefly on how closely the woman keeps her legs together. If she lies with her legs inside the man's and keeps them very close together, his penis will be squeezed in a way that is hard to achieve in any other sexual position, and though he is likely to ejaculate quickly, the feelings will be stronger for the woman as well. For a woman who likes the sense of penetration and the feeling of her man's penis inside her, this is a powerful experience.

It's exactly like this sexual position, except that the man and the woman are the other way up....

Obviously sex will last longer if there is less pressure on the man's penis, as there will be when she keeps her legs further apart:

Other variations on woman on top sexual positions

Variations on the woman on top positions are all about the angle of the penis in the vagina, and the fact that the woman gets different sensations when the man penetrates her from different angles.

These exciting techniques can be just as powerful for the man because different positions stimulate different parts of his penis and also put different degrees of pressure on it.

Why not try it out - you can have a great deal of fun and be very playful in experimenting with these different sexual positions!

Other sexual techniques

The woman on top faces towards the man

As you can see, in this sexual position the woman has a great deal of flexibility in the angle at which she leans on her man.

Each way of making love will provide deliciously different sensations for her vagina and his penis, and in some cases the different techniques also provide added pleasure for both partners because they can see his penis entering her, or see each other's buttocks, or her breasts.

Another enjoyable thing about this position is that he or she can play with her clitoris (and his balls) to make this even more pleasurable.

Having her on top while still lying face to face has some additional benefits: for instance, if he is very heavy, or if for any reason deep penetration is unwelcome, it is simply a more comfortable sexual technique. If she kneels astride her man as he lies on his back under her, she has the choice of timing and rhythm and she can also control the depth to which she is penetrated.
She can rub her own clitoris either with a finger or against her partner. (If you don't know much about the clitoris, this clitoris picture website is worth a look).
Although most women prefer making love on their backs, there's no doubt that the second most favorite position for sex is this one. Men like it too because they can pass their hands around her buttocks and freely feel the movements of their penis. And a man can increase her stimulation by stroking her labia and her anus.

This sexual technique involves a lovers' tender embrace

It's always possible to rest during your lovemaking, to talk, to look at each other, and to feel the sexual energy moving between you.

One sexual position where you can not only do all of this but also look deep into each other's eyes is the one shown below, which is a true lovers' embrace, a position in which you can discover exactly how your partner is feeling and see just what he or she would like next.

Resting will allow your sexual energy to accumulate, so that when you do finally go for your orgasms, they may well be much more intense than they would otherwise be.

You can also sit up unsupported if you put your arms around each other. While you do this, she can clench her vaginal muscles around his penis, and he can twitch his penis inside her to provide enough stimulation to keep his erection.

The woman on top faces away from the man (aka "The Reverse Cowgirl") - an exciting technique for all!

We've already mentioned that men may find this sexual position uncomfortable, but if you can manage it, sex in this position can be a very different experience.

It isn't a position that all men will appreciate, because it puts a lot of pressure on your penis when your partner sits on you facing away - and for men who have a small, hard erect penis that points upright when they are fully aroused, it may even be impossible to get into this position.

It's worthwhile being careful when you try it, to ensure that you don't bend your penis too far forwards and cause yourself any discomfort.

Other variations on woman on top sexual positions

There are plenty of other possible variations you can try, some of which are shown below. For a complete set of sex positions photos, we recommend you visit Great Sexual Techniques, where you can find much more explicit versions of all these images and photos of literally hundreds of sexual positions.

A man talks about woman on top sexual positions

You've heard the old expression that women can just lie back and enjoy sex! Well, this is the time when men can lie back and enjoy it! The relaxing position, the lack of effort - you don't have to support yourself on your arms - the view of your partner's breasts as she rides you, and the sight of yourself penetrating her as you make love - all these things and more make this a wonderful position and one that both sexes can relish!

More to the point, the woman has the chance to control how sex proceeds. She can control the pace, the rhythm and the depth of penetration, and if she's into getting off during intercourse then she might even be able to rub her clitoris along your body, making it more likely she can reach orgasm during sex.

But the main thing, I think, is the chance of equality. So often we think of fucking as something a man "does to" a woman, and the female orgasm as something that a man "gives to" his partner.

But neither of these things are true - women are (or should be) responsible for their own orgasms, and men are (or should be!) equal partners in sex with women.

When your female partner's on top, she's running the show, she's the one who can thrust, she's the one who can control how quickly her man comes to orgasm, and she's the one who's more likely to be able to come during sex. These wonderful techniques are there for the taking.....

The first time we tried it, I must admit it shocked me to find how much I resented having my partner fucking me! It took a while before I could let go of my preconceived ideas about male and female roles during sex, and relax while she put my erection inside her and used it to get off - I felt like a living dildo! The fact is, if you feel like this, then you simply must tell your partner, discuss it, talk it through, and sort out the way you both feel.

I do still prefer man on top sexual positions - but not by much! That's not because I feel insecure when she's on top - it's more about the fact that man on top sex feels better for me. But then again, if woman on top sex feels better for my partner, I guess it's only fair that we take it in turns!

Q & A from emails sent to us about positions, pleasure and performance!

Question: A young woman emailed us to ask how you can get maximum pleasure from woman on top sex.
Answer: There are some general rules during sex which help to make it much more pleasurable for you both - first is to consider what your partner needs and wants. That's not to say you should put your partner before yourself, but certainly make sure you consider what they want. So, for example, if you're trying out woman on top sex, and you're the woman, don't just lunge up and down on his penis without checking with him if he'd prefer a slower, more gentle movement! The speed of sex is under your control, sure, and you can always move faster if you want to, since this might be what you need to get off, but only do that with his agreement. You know how it feels when a man pounds hard into you when he's on top - that can be exciting, sure, but only if you're in the mood for it - and it's right to extend the same consideration to your partner when the positions are reversed during sex.
Then again, you might also want to consider how you move during sex. We all think of thrusting, with the man stroking his penis in and out of the vagina until one or both of you comes - but there's plenty of other ways you can move. For example, you can rotate your hips in a kind of circular motion while his penis is inside your vagina. This not only gives him a quite different set of sensations, it also stimulates more of your vagina. But find out what you both prefer - some couples like it more if they stick to the up and down movement!
The man is pretty much in the position that his partner's in during man on top sex - that is, his movement's limited. But he can move more than you might think - for example, he can move you by placing his hands on your pelvis, on your hips, or around your waist. This isn't a case of him shifting you about - it's more about him gently encouraging you in which way to go and how to move. He can show you how to move in the ways that are best for him, and you can show him what's best for you. In short, this might be summed up as: do what feels good for you both! You certainly want to try having the woman on top leaning forwards or backwards at different angles to see how it feels for you both, and have her lean right back to check out where it feels best.
If you have the man so he's semi-sitting up, semi-lying, with his back resting against something, then he can support his partner's weight as she leans forward onto him - this gives her more chance of pressing her clitoris on his body and perhaps reaching orgasm while making love.
Variation, as with so much else, is important, and instead of just sticking to one movement, say riding up and down his shaft, try alternating this by moving your pelvis around in a circle. As you do this, have your man push up his pelvis and move his knees up so he can get deeper into you.
Finally, the reverse cowgirl is always fun to try! You can see a picture of this higher up the page - it refers to when the woman is facing away from her man.