Well,
these are the adventurous versions of some
of the positions you have already seen - some of them are just for fun,
and some
of them are only for the fit and supple. Why try them? Well, you
certainly don't
need to, if you are happy with the way things are in your love life. But
as we
said in the introduction, if your love life is flagging through boredom
and you're
feeling that sex has become a bit monotonous, then trying some new
positions can be a way to boost your excitement and passion. I think
that lovers who are
trying slightly more complicated positions than the standard missionary,
rear
entry and side by side will be able to play with these positions and
find their
own favorites - above all, have fun, and enjoy yourselves! Sex should be
playful as
well as passionate!
If you're going to try standing sex positions then you need to be fit and fairly strong - especially
if you're trying to carry your partner while she's mounted on your erect
member! If you aren't confident of success, we'd recommend that you
don't try these positions - there's no point risking a broken penis!
And that raises an interesting question -
why would you even want to try standing sex positions? Well, there were
a lot of jokes around in my younger days about "knee tremblers" behind
the bike sheds at school: maybe the whole point of standing sex is to be
able to do it quickly, when there are no beds or other conveniences,
either out of necessity or for the sheer thrill of it! (Airplane toilets
at 60,000 feet, maybe? Which prompts me to add a note to premature
ejaculators...while quick sex may be desirable in some circumstances,
and a fast ejaculation suitable for sexual adventures such as joining
the mile high club, it's not conducive to sexual pleasure in all
circumstances, so you can always go here if you'd like to
stop premature ejaculation and as added bonus for both of you during
lovemaking, and discover the art of sexual stamina.
Standing sex is most likely to work when
you're both roughly the same height, so if the man is taller, then the
best way to get it together is to have the woman stand on something
strong enough to support her. Then, the best way for the man to get into
his partner is to start with him bending his knees while the couple
embrace loosely, facing each other, so that the man can enter his
partner as he straightens up. He can thrust fairly strongly if the
couple's height's right, and if the woman leans backwards a little bit,
then his pelvic bone can press against her clitoris each time he
thrusts. To get deeper penetration, the woman should stand one one leg
and hook the other one around him. He can hold her thigh to add support,
and he can hold her round her butt to help rock her on his erect cock.
Take this a stage further if you like by having her completely supported
on his hips - or resting her butt on a table if he doesn't have the
strength to hold her up. You can see how all this works more clearly in
the pictures below.
For even more variety, if you're the
woman, stand facing away from your man, and have him enter you from
behind as you bend forward. He can get into you deeply, and his hands
are free to play with anything else that takes your fancy!
All in all, standing sex is a position
you might want to explore, ready for those moments when you want a
quickie, you just can't wait, and you just have to have your
partner NOW! Apart from the quick satisfaction of an urgent fuck, there
isn't a lot of sensuousness or romance in this sex position! But if it's
what you need, what you want, and the time and the place are
right, then go for it!
Standing intercourse is associated with
the urgency of early sexual attraction and takes on an especially intense
eroticism all of its own. We don't recommend resorting to it in the very first
instances of having sex. That's because it's not intimate enough to help you
bond as a couple, and it needs a high level of cooperation and communication
for both man and woman to enjoy it.
This sex
position is pretty easy but for those who have never experienced it, here's
how you do it. Lean your woman with her back to the wall
with her legs slightly apart. Support her at the rear with one hand while
helping to insert your penis with the other. If she is short, you may have to
lift her slightly. You may also have to bend your legs so that your penis is
suitably angled. Don't forget that every time you thrust you crash her into
the wall - so do your best to partly cushion her back with a free hand. This
is exciting as long as your woman is shorter than you. Because of the height
difference, you cannot help thrusting upwards and if you press in close your
penis should be able to rub and thrust near or possibly on her clitoris. But
the position's strongest advantage is that it reeks of excitement, urgency and
lust. It can be a massive turn-on in itself.
The Perfumed Garden offers some extremely useful variations of the upright
position, including the powerfully athletic Driving the Peg Home, where the
male actually lifts the female off the ground until her vagina is at right
angles to his upright penis and her knees grasp his thighs as if she were
riding a horse. There is also a See-Saw version where the woman hitches one
leg over her partner's thigh, thus offering a wider and more comfortable
stimulation, and where the couple are exhorted to take it in turns to thrust,
first one, then the other, a kind of alternative in-and-out so that each
partner gains a sense of control and a choice of angle.
There
may be an association of sex in the standing position with the seedier
side of raw, urgent sex, perhaps sex in places where there is a danger of
being seen - outdoors in a public place, a stairwell, the store at the
office - that kingdom thing - but it is just as suited to sex play at
home. It may be easier for the man to penetrate the woman if she raises
one leg as shown here. It will certainly be a lot easier if the couple are
of a matching height and build, so that his penis is able to enter her
vagina easily and allow him to thrust without having to bend his knees too
much, which can be extremely tiring. This may be an exciting position, but
it does tend to produce less satisfaction at orgasm than others.
The face to face standing position can only
be successfully used for sex without adjustments having to be made when
the man and woman are more or less the same height.
If the woman is shorter than the man she
must stand on something to raise her pubic area to a level with his. Even
then, much will depend on the location of her vaginal entrance which needs
to be set forward in order for the penis to penetrate to a reasonable
depth. This imperfect position is better than nothing, for it does allow
very intimate contact to be made and this in itself can be emotionally
satisfying, even though the orgasm may not be very intense.
There is a variation of this sexual position
called The Tree, where the man stands for sex
with his feet apart to steady himself as much as possible, the woman
taking her position in front of him, also with feet apart. The penis is
put into the vagina, the woman clasps her hands behind her man's back and
at the same time he clasps his hands under her bottom.
At a given signal the woman swings her feet
off the ground at the same time that the man lifts her bottom, and she
grips his hips between her thighs, if possible crossing her feet at the
small of his back. Moderately deep penetration occurs. However, the
hazards of sex in this position are considerable, and if he happens to
drop her while his penis is still inside her, the results can be very
damaging indeed, so if you're a man, don't try it unless you are strong
enough to hold your partner.
